so since I have become an “official” item on SL, I have been doing a spot of thinking. I hope I will not use this blog to completely dissect the relationship until there is nothing left, rather I would hope to develop the thoughts and feelings associated with it here.
Up until now I have only been able to theorise how much of your RL goes into a SL relationship – with Midas there was a great connection of someone who listened, talked and was generally fun to be around. Scia on the other hand – it is a lot more intense. Here is someone who I am pretty sure could finish my sentences and is incredibly finely tuned into my thoughts during our travels on the grid. Can that be too good a thing? Or will it all end horribly
Personally I think I would prefer it to just run along and see where it takes us, it is so early and as far as news on the grapevine goes it will not be without its share of grief – not from my background but possibly from his. And as far as RL situations go, there wont be any cause to cross any boundaries that the other does not feel comfortable with – for me, if anything in SL started to have an effect on my RL or my relationship it would be stopped and cut out faster than you can say “A pirate’s life for me” *Edit* – Don’t get me wrong, I am very very happy in my SL relationship – long may that little excited jump in my tummy when his name pops online continue! I only hope that his continues too*
I want to add a bit to my previous blogs… Pretty much along the lines of the new name of my blog – Is this the Real Life? Or is this just Fantasy? How much of your RL can you put into SL without losing the differenciation between the two? And how much of your RL are you expected to share? This is a tough one to answer – unfortunately in today’s RL privacy and identity theft and other nasty things can come as a cause of your RL being invaded. Can SL be any different? People give out their mobile numbers, where they live, RL photos – and sometimes fairly early on between two meeting. Is this as a cause of a 3D avatar and the closeness to a life that this presents? Or would two people who met on a forum or a chat room without the presence of the SL interaction do the same?
At the end of it all, your SL is whatever way you want to take it – everyone has their own lives, situations and personalities that shape each relationship you make, whether the SL “family”, partnerships or just great friends. It will be interesting as my journey into complete SL assimilation continues to see how these relationships pan out.
Toodles
Lady Kezzy
well Shortarse, the world didn’t implode upon our meeting but it may well at this new stage of your SL. Strange how your musings seem to be a near exact ‘cut & paste’ from my own thoughts now the nature of my SL relationship has changed thanks to the SL-absence of a certain Mal Graves…
*grins* I feel much the same – though I dunno about the RL grief side – we’ll chat about that tonight if you like.
I think people would, and do, have online relationships via chatroom / IRC meetings – I started out with FidoNet back in the days of dial-up Bulletin Board systems (I was a point off Dave Naylor’s Frost-Free BBS in Huddersfield back in the early ’90’s), went on to Unix-based talkers, MUDs & MOOs, then onto IRC & now SL, Livejournal, Facebook et al, & I know loads of people who’ve hooked up that way, either for online-only or RL fun & romance. It’s just the same to me as any communications medium – in the end it’s real people interacting. As with any kind of relationship, boundaries have to be respected, niceties & rules observed. Balance in all things.